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I can't stress enough how important it is to have a good GP, one you trust and who listens to you.
Our minds are capable of limitless imagery, speaking up about how crappy you feel helps to contain it to words. Words you can accept, own and ultimately gain control of.
If a mate of mine came up to me and said ‘what do I do?’ I’d say ‘Go and talk to someone — speak up’. Chat to someone. Talk to her. Talk to a doctor. Just speak…
My advice would be don’t be afraid, come out of your shell and speak up because there is help out there.
The most important thing is to get help... And then I could focus on being a mum and getting to know my baby; which is what it’s all about.
I have to be there for my wife and my child. For any father, they are the most important people… if you’re not coping, if your wife’s not coping, the most critical thing you can do is speak up. Get help.
A positive outcome has been that we are a closer family unit.
You need to seek help sooner rather than later...and just speak up.
Just go and see your GP, speak up about how you’re feeling and let someone know what you’re going through. Just talk about it and try and get some help.
By talking openly you may give others the confidence they need to talk about it too.
If you choose to share your story, you will be inspiring other women to speak up and seek the support they need.
If you are struggling and not sure if what you are feeling is depression or anxiety, have a look at the signs and symptoms of depression and anxiety and take the antenatal and postnatal depression and anxiety checklist.
You can take this completed checklist to your health professional.
Antenatal and postnatal depression symptoms
Antenatal and postnatal anxiety symptoms